Beautiful without a filter

This is a picture my hip and side view of the real me at age 39. Although I’ve had two children, the ironic thing is that this is what I looked like even in my youth. I’ve always had stretch marks and I’ve never tried to cover them up with make-up or filters on my phone. Why? Because stretch marks are real life and it doesn’t make me any less beatuful because I have them. In my mind growing up I thought it was normal. I thought everyone had them. 

As I was taking this picture my son came in the bathroom unaware as to what I was doing. He was shocked as I held the camera towards my rear end and quickly asked why was I doing such a thing. 

I told him the honest truth. I told him that I wanted to write a blog post that encouraged other females to embrace their stretch marks, cellulite or any other normal body changes. This is real life and in real life, women aren’t perfect. Yet, we’re strong warriors, filters and make-up have many young girls disillusioned. 

It’s very unfortunate when a female doesn’t like herself or a certain part of her body because someone told her she shouldn’t. Or because she’s looked on the internet or in a magazine and saw women who don’t look like her, yet are glamorized because of the appearance of perfection. 

It’s very unfortunate that females don’t embrace their true selves. Rather they try and starve themselves as they try to fit into the cookie cutter of unrealistic views and opinions of people whose opinions don’t really matter. 

In my opinion, every size is beautiful. Every hue of human is beautiful. Stretch marks and dimples on the rear are also apart of life. And no female should feel less about themselves because they don’t look like someone else. God made everyone different, yet God loves us all the same. 

So I write this post to any female who doesn’t feel beautiful because of your stretch marks or other body contouring. Please know you are Gods greatest creation and in order for someone else to love you wholeheartedly, you must first love yourself! (Without any filters) ❤


Think your way to a better life! 

“As a man thinks in his heart so is he.” Proverbs 23:7

Believe it or not, but your current situation is directly related to your previous thoughts. Everyday I encounter people who unknowingly speak negative in their life. When problems occur, instead of speaking negative, begin to say things like, “Although this may be a difficult time at the moment, I will get through this because I am strong. I am an overcomer.” Many people rehearse failure and self pity. If that’s you, please stop today. 

What you put in the universe will eventually find its way to you! 

That is why it is super important to not allow defeat or mistakes to consume you. We all less up! Yes, at the moment it may be hard, but you are bigger than that moment. Whatever you need to get pass this moment has already been placed in you by your Creator. Its up to you to calm  and silence yourself so you can get clarity regarding how to handle your situation. 

One thing people miss is regarding faith. It’s great to believe that God will get you out of this jam, but you a job to do too. First you must think within yourself that it will all work out, then you must act (with actions) and begin to change your situation. 

Faith out works is dead!

I admit changing how you think doesn’t just happen overnight, but you must be purposeful in changing how you think and respond to life. True, your bank account may say something, but you are bigger than your bank account. Your bank account does not define you. You define you. 

I remember when my mom was diagnosed with lung cancer. Yes, I knew this was a serious diagnosis and she did treat it how the doctors thought she should. But, I never acknowledged the diagnosis of the doctors. I never treated my mom like she was different. I would always say to her, “There is nothing wrong with you. You are healthy.” I truly believe this helped my mom stay positive. Years later I still have my mom and she is healthy. 

So as we proceed into 2017, I wanted to encourage you to be careful of the words you speak and the thoughts that enter your mind. Don’t allow negative thoughts to enter and take residence in your mind. Daily think about things that are uplifting and positive. Begin to surround yourself with people who know that they are more than conqureors. Yes, this moment may be difficult, but you are strong…this too shall pass. 

15 Things You Didn’t Know About Me. 

So, I recently read the blog below and it inspired me to write my own list so my blog readers could learn alittle about me.


So here we go…

1. As a child I was afraid of the dark. Now I need complete darkness to sleep. 

2. I have OCD. 

3. On time to me is being late. All my clocks are set 5-10mins ahead of the actually time. 

4. I go to bed by 9pm at the latest every night. 

5. I wrote and directed my first play when I was a senior in high school. 

6. I had my first book signing when I was a freshmen in college. 

7. My children are the result of an internet marriage. 

8. I am always cold. I sleep with a comforter all year long. 

9. My favorite food is pizza. I hope there is pizza in Heaven

 10. My favorite store is Wal-Mart. I hope there is Wal-Mart in Heaven. 

11. I’ve written and published 7 books. 

12. I HATE BUGS!! (What’s the point of roaches again??)

13. The first thing I look at on a person are their teeth. 

14. I hate to see boogers in people’s noses. I pick my kids noses daily. 

15. I’m starting a non profit to help children. 

Well…here’s a little about me. Hope you enjoyed my list. 

My thoughts and visions have become my reality

I remember when I was in high school, I use to have a major crush of this guy who didn’t know I existed. He didn’t know I existed because he went to another school and the only time I saw him was in the Memorial Day parade in which our city held every year. He was a drum major and I was infatuated by his smooth moves as he danced to the beats of his band.

For about two years I waited with anticipation for his school’s band to approach the intersection where I would sit.Finally there he was high-stepping and grooving with his band uniform on and his marching staff in hand. Boy, did he look good. I wished that one day I could meet him. But, how could that ever happen? We went to different schools. So, as he passed, I dreamed of the next time I would be able to see him dance again.

Life went on and I was turning 16. WooHoo! I began planning my sweet 16 basement birthday party. I’m from the North, so most of our parties were in our basements. I sent out my invites, had my punch and cake ready. My CD’s were lined up to be played. Finally it was time for my guest to arrive. My doorbell rang and my friends arrived. As I was running around trying to entertain my guest, I heard my doorbell again. As I opened the door, there he stood. Yes, the guy who I’ve had a crush on for years was standing at my door wanting to come into my house to attend my party. To say the least, I wanted to faint.

My constant thoughts attracted him to me. I didn’t know that what I was doing had a name, but as I grew older I begin to use the law of attraction to my benefit. I can tell you countless stories about how this law has worked for me, but I’ll simply tell you what has happened in my current 2014/2015 life.

The picture of the model home I'm about to build.
The picture of the model home I’m about to build.

Years ago I created a vision board. (I strongly recommend people do this) On this vision board I put things in which I wanted to happen in my life. One picture I put on it was of a house and I simply wrote, build on it. Time passed, a divorce happened, went from a one bedroom apartment to a two bedroom apartment and finally I decided it was time for a house. My boys were growing bigger and they needed more space. So, I put a status update on my Facebook that I claimed in faith that in 2015 we were moving into a house. Nothing or no one could convince me otherwise. Long story short, I asked, believed and received.

Our house will be completed in a few month and I’m so excited. It is everything I wanted in a house. As I looked back on my vision board, I didn’t have any idea how it would come to pass, but that was not my concern. I stood on the scriptures and my faith never wavered. I daily thanked God for our house before I ever went out looking for a house.

So I encourage anyone who want to receive anything in their life, see it first in your mind. Ask for it, believe that you’ve received it and begin being grateful for it.