Pay it foward

This weekend I took my husband to Louisiana to cap off his birthday celebrations. Despite the fact that my husband is born on Valentine’s, which is ultimately my favorite hoilday, I always want him to feel special as well. This year his birthday fell on a Wednesday, so we waited until the weekend to engage in our fun activities. Saturday we went to a new restaurant here in town named, The Whiskey Cake. The food was delicious. After which we went to see the new movie, Black Panther. Then on Sunday, we drove to the casino to gamble a little, but most importantly to eat at the buffet. You see, my husband LOVES food!!! So taking him there to eat all he could made his day!

As we stood in line, there was this guy standing there at the register talking with the cashier lady. I don’t really know what they were talking about because there was a couple ahead of us, and plus I try not to listen to other peoples conversations. But then the cashier asked the couple in front of us what they wanted to drink. I don’t know how much English this couple knew, but they knew enough to say what type of drink they wanted after being confused why the lady asked them that.

Then, she proceeded to say something else to the guy at the register. She then asks us what we wanted to drink. I was really confused at this point because they only ask what you want to drink when it’s time to pay and enter the buffet. Plus, the couple was still in front of us and the man was still standing in front of the cashier.

I’m guessing the lady saw how confused everyone was looking so she finally says, “He just paid for you all!” My mouth dropped. Me and my hubby were both in shock. The couple in front of us didn’t seem as excited and appreciative as we were that is why I don’t think they spoke that much English. I really don’t think they knew exactly what just happened. But both me and my husband showered the man with thanks and God bless you’s!

I have no idea why this man did this or why we were at the right place at the right time. But it did remind me of God’s love and how we should give to others and pay it forward. I plan to be a blessing to someone else this week.

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I wish death away…

Today I saw someone who I didn’t know if I would see again, when I last saw them. This angel has had stomach cancer, so her stomach had to be removed. She is now being fed by a feeding tube. She’s an older lady, so I know the constant doctor appointments, hospital stays, surgeries, pains and probably more than I can imgine is a lot on her frail body. Yet, she keeps pushing forward.

Seeing her today made me smile. I tried to cherish my time with her, not knowing if it would be our last time together. She is a fighter, but one day we all must leave this Earth and make a transition. To where? Well that’s only for God to decide.

I wish I could take her pains away and cast them into darkness never to be felt again. But, I can’t. I can only pray for her strength as she endures what many can’t. She is fragile, yet so strong.

I wish death never existed. I’ve cried too many tears over this. I’ve cried because at times I felt lost. I’ve cried because I’ve felt alone. I’ve cried because I would never see that person again on this Earth. I wish death would die.

So for those that are already gone and for us that still need to make that transition, I pray your soul peace. We only get one life, so make the most of each moment. Yes, there will be days in which you get mad. Just don’t stay mad. Smile as much as you can. Laugh as hard as humanly possible. Fall in Love. Walk through the sand. Watch the sunrise and the sunset. Be your best you.

No one knows when death will come for them. But today, I got to spend some time with an earthly angel, and I really tried to maximize on the experience.

A long day

So…today was long. Not so much with time because we all get only 24 hours in a day. But, due to the events of the day, the minutes dragged on. And when people are upset about injustice and unfairness, long drawn out mins turn into a very long day.

Despite, it being a very long, I am yet grateful for the blessing of being appreciated. No one has to say thank you to me, but when someone does, it’s well appreciated. No one has to treat me to lunch, but if they do, I’m super excited.

To end this day, I must drink some wine. In my head I’m convinced this has some magical powers to calm me down. I usually don’t speak up unless I must, and today I was at my limit. I had to open my mouth and be honest regarding the actions of people and how they often affect others.

Going forward, I just pray God continues to give me peace and guidance regarding how to speak calmly. My goal is peace. My goal is harmony. I never want people upset. I don’t want many long days.

Why label?

So recently in my blog feed I saw this title and to be honest I began to feel some type of way. Not because of the heriom of this lady as she risked her life to save many children, but because I don’t understand why it had to be titled as such. I don’t quite get why the reader has to be enlighten on the race of this person. Why does it matter what color she was? Isn’t what’s most important is that children were saved and another human being helped them? 

Daily in this country people feel the need to put labels on people. In my opinion that is why there is so much division amomgest us. Did the author label this as such to let the readers know that not all black people are bad and that there are some really good caring ones out there? Who knows, but sometimes I wish we could be blindfolded and see no color, just another human being. I bet then racism, hatred and labels would quickly be a second thought. With blindfolds no one will think they are better than the next because we would need to depend on each other to make it in this life. 

This post is not to tell anyone to deny their heritage, but why so many labels? Job and college applications have gotten to be way too much. We’re all human. All of our blood is red. We we’re all born and we are all gonna die one day. If any label should had been placed on this lady it simply should had be hero! Or how about simply giving her honor by saying her name in the title and not her race.

But those are just my thoughts…

Think your way to a better life! 

“As a man thinks in his heart so is he.” Proverbs 23:7

Believe it or not, but your current situation is directly related to your previous thoughts. Everyday I encounter people who unknowingly speak negative in their life. When problems occur, instead of speaking negative, begin to say things like, “Although this may be a difficult time at the moment, I will get through this because I am strong. I am an overcomer.” Many people rehearse failure and self pity. If that’s you, please stop today. 

What you put in the universe will eventually find its way to you! 

That is why it is super important to not allow defeat or mistakes to consume you. We all less up! Yes, at the moment it may be hard, but you are bigger than that moment. Whatever you need to get pass this moment has already been placed in you by your Creator. Its up to you to calm  and silence yourself so you can get clarity regarding how to handle your situation. 

One thing people miss is regarding faith. It’s great to believe that God will get you out of this jam, but you a job to do too. First you must think within yourself that it will all work out, then you must act (with actions) and begin to change your situation. 

Faith out works is dead!

I admit changing how you think doesn’t just happen overnight, but you must be purposeful in changing how you think and respond to life. True, your bank account may say something, but you are bigger than your bank account. Your bank account does not define you. You define you. 

I remember when my mom was diagnosed with lung cancer. Yes, I knew this was a serious diagnosis and she did treat it how the doctors thought she should. But, I never acknowledged the diagnosis of the doctors. I never treated my mom like she was different. I would always say to her, “There is nothing wrong with you. You are healthy.” I truly believe this helped my mom stay positive. Years later I still have my mom and she is healthy. 

So as we proceed into 2017, I wanted to encourage you to be careful of the words you speak and the thoughts that enter your mind. Don’t allow negative thoughts to enter and take residence in your mind. Daily think about things that are uplifting and positive. Begin to surround yourself with people who know that they are more than conqureors. Yes, this moment may be difficult, but you are strong…this too shall pass. 

Life interrupted…

I will be the first to admit, I hate it when my life becomes interrupted by something or someone unannounced. I am a planner and a free spirit, but I only enjoy the latter when I choose to be it. I totally get that in this life one day you could be high in the clouds, then suddenly the walls can cave in. Thus, when I’m having a great day I try to maximize on the feeling because you just never know what could happen the next day. 

My life is busy, but whose isnt? I’m pretty sure there are those who would love to trade places with me due to their hetic schedules. But, in my little world I can only express my feeling of running around like a headless chicken. 

I work a full time job, I am a mother/uber driver to my two children and now a new wife. On the side, I am in the midst of writing a novel (my 8th book), starting a non profit for children, getting ready to join a new church (which is mega by the way,) and volunteering at an elderly facility. Some of my buziness to others may seem self inflicted, but I believe I was created for more than just going to work everyday for someone else, being a mom and a wife. I have gifts within me and not sharing them with the world, to me is a waste of God’s time in creating me. God created us for so much more than the usual routine. I want to honor God with my gifts and talents, but sometimes that means there will be interruptions. 

Did I mention how much I hate interruptions.

There will be times when I need it quiet so I can focus on my writing, but at times the children nor the hubby adheres to my level of no noise. 

There will be times when my vision is to just go home after work, cook dinner for my children and rest while reading. Yet, the television is blarring at home, the children are fussing with one another or I need to clean or do laundry.

Or the time when I was pregnant with my first born. Shortly after purchasing a new home, I was out on hospital bed rest, then ended up having the baby early. Wasn’t prepared for that to say the least. Especially since he was born during the “anthrax”  scare and his baby shower invites didn’t make it to anyone. 

Interruptions are enevtible and I get that. But, I will be the first to admit a change in direction is hard on me. I want to do things my way without any detours. Don’t we all?? 

But what God is teaching me is that regardless of what I think or feel the main thing is that I trust him completely because he knows the direction he is leading me into. 

I just can’t see the destination and that’s frustrating. 

Yes, I got frustrated due to getting caught by that light, but God saw an accident getting ready to occur and he allowed me to miss it by being caught by the light. Yes, I got frustrated because the store didn’t have that particular item I wanted to buy, but God saw a bill coming in the mail for an amount around the exact amount I would have paid for that item. One thing I missed out on, covered a surprise bill. Look at God at work. 

So yes sudden interruptions can be quite annoying, but we must practice looking at each situation with what is God trying to teach me? 

I want to encourage you (and even myself) to not get so bent out of shape due to an interruption. Ride the wave because it may have come to teach you something very valuable or to protect you from something.