Beautiful without a filter

This is a picture my hip and side view of the real me at age 39. Although I’ve had two children, the ironic thing is that this is what I looked like even in my youth. I’ve always had stretch marks and I’ve never tried to cover them up with make-up or filters on my phone. Why? Because stretch marks are real life and it doesn’t make me any less beatuful because I have them. In my mind growing up I thought it was normal. I thought everyone had them. 

As I was taking this picture my son came in the bathroom unaware as to what I was doing. He was shocked as I held the camera towards my rear end and quickly asked why was I doing such a thing. 

I told him the honest truth. I told him that I wanted to write a blog post that encouraged other females to embrace their stretch marks, cellulite or any other normal body changes. This is real life and in real life, women aren’t perfect. Yet, we’re strong warriors, filters and make-up have many young girls disillusioned. 

It’s very unfortunate when a female doesn’t like herself or a certain part of her body because someone told her she shouldn’t. Or because she’s looked on the internet or in a magazine and saw women who don’t look like her, yet are glamorized because of the appearance of perfection. 

It’s very unfortunate that females don’t embrace their true selves. Rather they try and starve themselves as they try to fit into the cookie cutter of unrealistic views and opinions of people whose opinions don’t really matter. 

In my opinion, every size is beautiful. Every hue of human is beautiful. Stretch marks and dimples on the rear are also apart of life. And no female should feel less about themselves because they don’t look like someone else. God made everyone different, yet God loves us all the same. 

So I write this post to any female who doesn’t feel beautiful because of your stretch marks or other body contouring. Please know you are Gods greatest creation and in order for someone else to love you wholeheartedly, you must first love yourself! (Without any filters) ❤

The storms of life

I recently saw these clouds in my neighborhood and were instantly drawn to their majesty. I remember when I was a child, I feared storms. I was consumed with watching the weather so I could mentally prepare for when the next storm was to come. As the storms began to rumble the heavens, my heart began to race faster and faster. The wind was fierce and in my mind I was on the next trip to Oz to meet the wizard. 

Eventually everything calmed down. The winds stopped blowing and the rain ceased from flowing out of the clouds. Once again, the birds began to chirp and the sun peeled through the clouds. 

I made it through…

And so here I am writing you after ensurding many storms. Some were actually physical storms, while others were mental/spiritual/human storms. Regardless of what type of storm, I hated to ensure them. But, with each storm, God kept me safe and anchored in him. 

When I wanted to give up, God pulled me closer and told me to focus on him. I held his hand tightly as I began to submit my will and trust him in faith. 

God never promised storms wouldn’t come, but he did promise to never leave or forsake you or me. Now when storms come, although I may bend due to winds of life, but I will never break! For my God is holding me up. There is so much more in store after the storm. Storms are there to build character and your faith. Never be afraid of what is destined to help you become a better you. Blessings to you. 

A chance to inspire others

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In six more days, I will have awesome the opportunity to speak to others regarding their purpose here on earth. I believe we were all created for a purpose and on purpose. The only thing is, many people have not discovered what their purpose is and they are simply living daily with no direction.

Then there are those who have discovered their purpose, but are too afraid to go forward with their passion. Many people are too afraid to jump due to fear of failure. Truth is we are all going to fail at some point, but that doesn’t constitute you a failure.

I plan to encourage those who attend to be risk takers and realize that we only have one life to live. Thus, we should live it to the fullest. We all have gifts and talents to share with this world, thus going to the grave full of regrets and unused gifts is not an option.

I am grateful for this opportunity to be used by God to encouraged others.

The Versatile Blogger Award

So, I was blessed to receive this award about a week ago and I was totally in shock. I would like to thank Amitch90.

Amitch90 for this nomination. I have been blogging off and on for a few years, but it wasn’t until last year that I started to take it more seriously. So much thanks and appreciation to you my blogging friend.

I would next like to thank God for my brain and the ability to think for myself. Thank you the life experiences you give me so I can write and share with the world. Next, thank you to all those who choose to read and comment on my blogs.

Now I am suppose to share seven facts about myself.

1. I love to sleep.

2. My favorite food is pizza

3. I hate shopping and pumping gas.

4. I secretly want another child and puppy.

5. My dream is to be on the NY Times best sellers list.

6. I want to pursue motivational speaking.

7. I would love to open a shelter for women and children.

Next I am suppose to nominate 10 blogs. So here it goes. Please show award on your blog.

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1. LaJoy Currie Carr at Joyful Connections

2. Sherill Roger Davis at Motivating Youth and adults

3. Colleen Donavan at Motivating Women

4. Wanda Howard at Notes from Wanda

5. Time J Len at Me Unfinished

6.Kiara at Honey get your mind right

7. Seeds4life

8. Treasures of Life

9. Beauty Beyond Bones

10. The Revelment

Well, once again thank you and goodnight! Happy Blogging!

 

 

 

Busyness with no purpose!

Often times people fall into the trap of, always having to be doing something. I totally agree with the quote which says, “A idle mind is the devils playground.” But, if you are simply making up stuff to do, you are not being productive. It’s okay to say no sometimes to invites to parties, events or etc., if it’s not going to help you move forward with your purpose. Time is a limited commodity, so I encourage you to make good use of it.

Having a calendar full of “stuff” just so it can appear to people that your life is above awesome or that you know so tons of people is a waste of energy. Get busy, but busy about what you are suppose to be doing.

There is a time and purpose for everything. Sometimes, you simply need to rest. Recognize these times and take advantage of them. Every day does not need to become jammed packed with activities and events. Focus on your goals, then take some time to refuel and focus on you. Turn off cell phones and computers and listen to your inner spirit. God wants to lead you, but often you can’t hear him because your mind is too busy. Slow down.

Smile

One never knows what someone else is going through. Many people hide behind mask when underneath they are hurting and on the verge of suicide. So today, make a concious effort to smile at someone today. That one smile could be the determining factor between life and death for someone. Plus, a smile doesn’t cost anything.

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Thoughts from a child

I remember watching a video about what children really thought of their moms and I may say it was truly interesting. At first the video starts off interviewing different moms regarding what they thought their children thought of them. Unfortunately, all moms thought their children were going to say something mean about them. How they didn’t allow them to have certain things or go certain places.

But, surprisingly, when they interviewed the children, all of them spoke highly about how much their mom loved them and would do anything for them. Not one child said anything negative about their mom.

This made me think, often times we as moms come down too hard on ourselves. I think single moms for sure are always questioning themselves regarding the care of their little ones.

I want to encourage moms by saying, understand you are not always going to get it right, but that’s okay. You are not always going to make it to EVERY school event, cook the perfect meal in which every likes, read them a book every night without possibly dozing, nor will you always make the best decisions. But pray and God will help you daily.

As a single mom myself, I always joke with my boys by telling them I am not always going to get it right and that they are experimental children because I’ve never had children before. We laugh, but they get the point. When I’m wrong, I don’t mind apologizing. Children learn by example.

Never will I claim to be the perfect mom, but I do try to be the best mom I can be for my boys. And being the best mom starts by taking care of me first. I cherish, love and spoil me first so that I can do the same to them. When I need rest…I rest! They simply go read a book or quietly play a video game.

Thus, I decided to make my own video about what my boys thought of me. All I can say is that my boys are honest and they don’t hold back. I love them because of that! Enjoy!

http://youtu.be/ZctkFPTzKp4