Think your way to a better life! 

“As a man thinks in his heart so is he.” Proverbs 23:7

Believe it or not, but your current situation is directly related to your previous thoughts. Everyday I encounter people who unknowingly speak negative in their life. When problems occur, instead of speaking negative, begin to say things like, “Although this may be a difficult time at the moment, I will get through this because I am strong. I am an overcomer.” Many people rehearse failure and self pity. If that’s you, please stop today. 

What you put in the universe will eventually find its way to you! 

That is why it is super important to not allow defeat or mistakes to consume you. We all less up! Yes, at the moment it may be hard, but you are bigger than that moment. Whatever you need to get pass this moment has already been placed in you by your Creator. Its up to you to calm  and silence yourself so you can get clarity regarding how to handle your situation. 

One thing people miss is regarding faith. It’s great to believe that God will get you out of this jam, but you a job to do too. First you must think within yourself that it will all work out, then you must act (with actions) and begin to change your situation. 

Faith out works is dead!

I admit changing how you think doesn’t just happen overnight, but you must be purposeful in changing how you think and respond to life. True, your bank account may say something, but you are bigger than your bank account. Your bank account does not define you. You define you. 

I remember when my mom was diagnosed with lung cancer. Yes, I knew this was a serious diagnosis and she did treat it how the doctors thought she should. But, I never acknowledged the diagnosis of the doctors. I never treated my mom like she was different. I would always say to her, “There is nothing wrong with you. You are healthy.” I truly believe this helped my mom stay positive. Years later I still have my mom and she is healthy. 

So as we proceed into 2017, I wanted to encourage you to be careful of the words you speak and the thoughts that enter your mind. Don’t allow negative thoughts to enter and take residence in your mind. Daily think about things that are uplifting and positive. Begin to surround yourself with people who know that they are more than conqureors. Yes, this moment may be difficult, but you are strong…this too shall pass. 


Pray about everything! 

Over the weekend I went over my friends house because I wanted her to trim my ends. I have been natural for about four years now and I usually have my ends clipped twice a year. But, for some strange reason, this summer season has been brutal on my hair and I was very discouraged. It was dry and brittle and I felt like a natural failure to say the least. 

My friend who has been natural for a few years herself was the one who actually did my BIG CHOP! That day was amazing. I felt so free and alive. Who knew cutting your hair could be so exhilarating? 

Well as I proceeded to complain about my hair, my friend stopped me right in my tracks. Instead of agreeing with me, she encouraged me to speak life over my hair. She said I should pray and ask God regarding how to manage and take care of my hair, and to also ask him to lead me to the right products for my hair. 

I was blown away by her words. 

I consider myself a woman of faith, but I never thought about praying about my hair maintenance. 

“Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done.” Philippians 4:6 NLT

She was right! I should be able to pray about my hair, as well as, everything else I need help with in my life. Such wisdom she provided me with. I went over there just for a trim, but I left with knowledge. 

So I want to encourage you today, pray about everything. Pray about the super simplest thing to the most complex issue you may face. God wants to hear it all. And nothing is too big or small for him to be apart of. He loves talking and listening to his children. 

Make today a good day! 

Sometimes I wake up and I don’t want to get up. Yes, the bed feels warm and comfortable. But, sometimes life is hard and I don’t want to face the decisions I will need to make, nor the challenges that will arise. So I hit snooze…

But, in reality I can’t just lay here. I have to put my big girl panties on and hit the floor with the mind that I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me. Yet, I’m still leery…

I begin my day by giving thanks to my Creator and ask for wisdom and direction for my day. I’m nervous, but when I listen to him. When I really listen to him, he directs my path. So, because he has never failed me in the past, I begin to claim that despite whatever it is I will face…today is going to be a good day! 


I am only 38 and I admit I have not been through nearly as much as some people on this planet. I have never been raped. I have never had to sleep in the streets and wonder where my next meal was coming from. I came from a single parent home, but it was never broken because I saw my dad all the time. Drugs were never and issue in my life, nor did I ever witness my mom being abused. 

So why am I so tired? I’m tired because of the lack of love in the world. I’m tired off hearing and reading about the senseless killings that occur everyday for no reason at all. I’m tired of little children losing their parents to crime, leaving some to be raised in a system of injustice.

I’m tried of no one owning up to their mistakes. No one is perfect, so own up to what you did and try to make it better. I’m tired of people blaming others for where they are or are not in their lives. Just because a liquor store was placed on your corner doesn’t mean you have to go in it and buy alcohol. Just because someone sells drugs doesn’t mean someone is making you buy them. 

My husband and I debate about this at times. He believe people are products of their surroundings. I total disagreed. I believe everyone has choices. True, you could have grown up in not the best circumstances, but if you are determined to change your future you can. Yes, it may be hard. But, all things are possible with God. 

So yes I’m tired. Tired of routine, racism, hatred, betrayal, senseless killings, and other things. But what can I do to change how things are here on the earth while I am still alive? I can start by living and portraying the life that I want to others to follow. I can start by teaching my children about choices. Choices that may be made in the present, affecting their future. I, amongst others can stop being so tired and stand up for what is right. We can stand up tall when others try to bring us down. We can all start by being there for someone in need, by either word or deed. The act of love can go a long way. 

So true, I haven’t experienced what many others have. But, one thing I do know is that I’m tired of love not being shown to others. Together we can make a great impact, but first we gotta get pass out dislike for each other. Skin color varies, but all of our blood is red. 

Single Mom, yet not alone!

When I first became a mother, I never thought that one day I would become a single mom. I had no clue, but yet God knew this before I was ever conceived. Thus, he equipped me with everything I would need to raise my boys.

Life for us has been blessed, but I must admit I get tired. Tired of doing so many roles all on my own. But daily God gives me the strength and the resources to provide a good life for me and my boys.

I smile because when I’m weary, my boys go play quietly while I take a quick power nap. I am grateful because I have a job that allows me to attend all their school parties and activities. I am overjoyed that when I need someone to watch my boys, my friends are always there for me. Every need and all of our wants have been met. We even are blessed to take vactions and in a few days close on a newly built home.

Yes, being a single parent has it’s up’s and down’s, but I rejoice because God has been with us every step of the way. At times I want to throw my hands up and give up, but when I do find myself throwing my hands up, it’s to give God praise for all he has done for us.

Being a single mom isn’t all that bad, especially when God has our back!

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Living a foward life

“Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended: but this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before.” Philippians 3:13

I’m only 37, but I’ve experienced much pain, disappointments and hurt at different points in my life. My pain may be more or less than someone else, yet it was still my pain. Pain that helped mold me and teach me valuable lessons. True, when I was going through I wanted it to be over and often wondered and asked God, “why me?” But, as I matured and listened more to God, I heard him ask me, “Why not you?”

Yes, pain and disappointments hurt. They make you want to give up, crawl into a hole and never come back out. But, what if that situation was too help you to become a better person; to make you stronger?

Breakups are really hard. The death of a love one is even worse. But, as I live daily I am learning to cherish people and moments in the now. Everyone nor everything is not suppose to be with you forever. Everyone has a purpose and once that purpose has been accomplished, they must move on. We gotta start allowing the person to move on and not hold on to them because we don’t want to let go.

Learning how to let go can be very difficult. It takes much practice and prayer. When you let go, it’s not that you’re trying to forget memories. But rather you are learning how to embrace your future. God has so much in store for us and sometimes we can’t take present people or things into our future.

I’m excited about my future. I’m excited about the new people I will meet and the new places I will go. I will always cherish the people who are in my life rather for the present or for the long haul. But, I moving ahead, smiling and excited about the new blogs I will write about regarding my future adventures.

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Casting Stones

“He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her.” John 8:7

So often people want to pass judgement against someone else.

“I can’t believe she did that.”
“I can’t believe he went to that place.”
“I can’t believe she said that.”
…because I would NEVER do that!!

Be careful of these types of people. In reality majority of us are trying to live a good and productive life. Sometimes, life forces you in a corner and causes you to do things differently because of survival mode. I have learned, NEVER say what you wouldn’t ever do. We are all one decision away from doing something good or bad. It all boils down to a choice.

But, what puzzles me is how many people play God as though they have a heaven or hell to put someone in. How dare such people. No sin is greater than the other, so just because you’ve never murdered anyone physically, you may have done it with your words.

We are all a work in progress. So instead of judging, maybe we can encourage or help someone. Instead of casting stones maybe we should ask the person in love, what made them make that choice and if we could pray with them as a true friend. Also, having an accountability partner is always a good way to stay out of jugemental and everyday struggles. A true friend will remind you of where you’ve come from (in terms of your past) and help you to rationalize your thoughts and actions.

We have all sinned and fallen short, so before you go picking out the best stone to throw, check your shortcomings first. I am pretty sure there is something you can improve on.

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