50 shades of love and more!

So yesterday I concluded the movie series of 50 shades. I read the first book not too long ago, but then I realized that the third movie was soon to come out. So I quickly watched the first and second movie so I could be ready to understand the third movie.

When I began reading the first book, I couldn’t quite figure out if I liked Christian; a lead character. The more I read, the more I developed a love/hate relationship with this man. With which page I turned, I became obsessed with trying to figure out what the heck was wrong with him. Why was he the way he was? Why such control issues?

By the end of the book, I began to somewhat like and understand him. But of course I still had more questions. Yet, I did feel as though he was being sincere and really loved Anastasia; his love interest.

From the first movie till the last, I appreciated how he tried to shower her with admiration. His intrigue of her beauty and intelligence was facinating. Each movie I will admit was intense. I clung to the screen wondering what would happen next. I can honestly say none of the three movies were a disappointment.

I can imagine woman across the globe leaving the theater wanting someone like Christian Grey. But, I am blessed, although my Christian is named Keith he is my love for life.

No, he doesn’t fly me across the world in his private jet. But he does make sure I feel loved daily. He loves to cook, so I’m always eating good. And we have the best time everytime we go out.

We met on the internet, got married 9 months later and will be celebrating 2 years of marriage in April. He is my 50 shades and more. I appreciate the blessing I have in him.

I left the movies hoping that people appreciate the person they have in their life. Life is not promised, so cherish the one in your life everyday. Begin the write your own love story on your big screen of life.


Tiffany Haddish – As real as it gets!

So not too long ago I went to see the movie, Girl’s Trip. At this time I had never heard of Tiffany Haddish, but as I watched the movie I began to realize how amazing this actress/comedian truly is. Her character in this movie was so relatable and funny. I totally saw myself as I watched her on the big screen.

This movie caused me to want to know more about this super talented lady. Thus, I read her book, The Black Unicorn. As I read each chapter my mouth dropped. This lady was truly transparent, real and didn’t hold back her life experiences regardless of what others might think. And because of that and her persistence in accepting what life throws her way, she has become a break out star. She inspires me beyond words.

One day I would love to just meet this lady, say thank you for sharing her life with me and have some laughs. She’s totally fits the description of what I would want in a sister/friend. Meeting her may be a long shot to some, but I believe the universe will one day align it that we meet and eat some joyful greens. (I also love to garden.) Until then Ms. Tiffany keep doing your thing and being the best you God created you to be.

Think your way to a better life! 

“As a man thinks in his heart so is he.” Proverbs 23:7

Believe it or not, but your current situation is directly related to your previous thoughts. Everyday I encounter people who unknowingly speak negative in their life. When problems occur, instead of speaking negative, begin to say things like, “Although this may be a difficult time at the moment, I will get through this because I am strong. I am an overcomer.” Many people rehearse failure and self pity. If that’s you, please stop today. 

What you put in the universe will eventually find its way to you! 

That is why it is super important to not allow defeat or mistakes to consume you. We all less up! Yes, at the moment it may be hard, but you are bigger than that moment. Whatever you need to get pass this moment has already been placed in you by your Creator. Its up to you to calm  and silence yourself so you can get clarity regarding how to handle your situation. 

One thing people miss is regarding faith. It’s great to believe that God will get you out of this jam, but you a job to do too. First you must think within yourself that it will all work out, then you must act (with actions) and begin to change your situation. 

Faith out works is dead!

I admit changing how you think doesn’t just happen overnight, but you must be purposeful in changing how you think and respond to life. True, your bank account may say something, but you are bigger than your bank account. Your bank account does not define you. You define you. 

I remember when my mom was diagnosed with lung cancer. Yes, I knew this was a serious diagnosis and she did treat it how the doctors thought she should. But, I never acknowledged the diagnosis of the doctors. I never treated my mom like she was different. I would always say to her, “There is nothing wrong with you. You are healthy.” I truly believe this helped my mom stay positive. Years later I still have my mom and she is healthy. 

So as we proceed into 2017, I wanted to encourage you to be careful of the words you speak and the thoughts that enter your mind. Don’t allow negative thoughts to enter and take residence in your mind. Daily think about things that are uplifting and positive. Begin to surround yourself with people who know that they are more than conqureors. Yes, this moment may be difficult, but you are strong…this too shall pass. 

Life interrupted…

I will be the first to admit, I hate it when my life becomes interrupted by something or someone unannounced. I am a planner and a free spirit, but I only enjoy the latter when I choose to be it. I totally get that in this life one day you could be high in the clouds, then suddenly the walls can cave in. Thus, when I’m having a great day I try to maximize on the feeling because you just never know what could happen the next day. 

My life is busy, but whose isnt? I’m pretty sure there are those who would love to trade places with me due to their hetic schedules. But, in my little world I can only express my feeling of running around like a headless chicken. 

I work a full time job, I am a mother/uber driver to my two children and now a new wife. On the side, I am in the midst of writing a novel (my 8th book), starting a non profit for children, getting ready to join a new church (which is mega by the way,) and volunteering at an elderly facility. Some of my buziness to others may seem self inflicted, but I believe I was created for more than just going to work everyday for someone else, being a mom and a wife. I have gifts within me and not sharing them with the world, to me is a waste of God’s time in creating me. God created us for so much more than the usual routine. I want to honor God with my gifts and talents, but sometimes that means there will be interruptions. 

Did I mention how much I hate interruptions.

There will be times when I need it quiet so I can focus on my writing, but at times the children nor the hubby adheres to my level of no noise. 

There will be times when my vision is to just go home after work, cook dinner for my children and rest while reading. Yet, the television is blarring at home, the children are fussing with one another or I need to clean or do laundry.

Or the time when I was pregnant with my first born. Shortly after purchasing a new home, I was out on hospital bed rest, then ended up having the baby early. Wasn’t prepared for that to say the least. Especially since he was born during the “anthrax”  scare and his baby shower invites didn’t make it to anyone. 

Interruptions are enevtible and I get that. But, I will be the first to admit a change in direction is hard on me. I want to do things my way without any detours. Don’t we all?? 

But what God is teaching me is that regardless of what I think or feel the main thing is that I trust him completely because he knows the direction he is leading me into. 

I just can’t see the destination and that’s frustrating. 

Yes, I got frustrated due to getting caught by that light, but God saw an accident getting ready to occur and he allowed me to miss it by being caught by the light. Yes, I got frustrated because the store didn’t have that particular item I wanted to buy, but God saw a bill coming in the mail for an amount around the exact amount I would have paid for that item. One thing I missed out on, covered a surprise bill. Look at God at work. 

So yes sudden interruptions can be quite annoying, but we must practice looking at each situation with what is God trying to teach me? 

I want to encourage you (and even myself) to not get so bent out of shape due to an interruption. Ride the wave because it may have come to teach you something very valuable or to protect you from something. 


Is there any such thing in the world as a honest person? Why do people lie? What prevents people from telling the truth? Is it fear of rejection? Is it fear about being caught? Is it fear from people finding out who the real you really is? 

I suppose at some point everyone has told a lie. We are all born with a sinful nature. But, at what point do you stop lying? Lies hurt people? Lied destroys families and friendships. Lies can even lead to death. 

I remember when I was “in a relationship” with this guy. In my mind, I thought that if you loved the person unconditionally, believed in them, supported them and sexed them like a crazed rabbit that all would be well. But, that’s not true. People have free-will and do as they choose. He eventually cheated on me due to his own selfish desires. Although I was terribly hurt, I still had great respect for him. 

Yes, I know that sounds crazy and wierd. But, the reason I respect him was because when I conforted him about it…he told me the truth! 

He admitted to cheating on me.

Yes, I was super hurt, but the fact that he “manned up” and was honest made me appreciate his honesty. Of course we didn’t work out, but I walked away from that relationship feeling different. 

Sometimes it hurts to tell the truth, but regardless the truth must be told. Now, if someone asks you a question regarding if you like their outfit or not (and you truly don’t), how about redponding: “Well, as long as you like it, that’s all that matters!” There are ways to advoid lying. 

In conclusion, I would rather not say anything than to lie to someone. I truly believe you reap what you sow. So daily I ask God to help me to be honest and wise. 

What’s your thoughts about honesty??

The storms of life

I recently saw these clouds in my neighborhood and were instantly drawn to their majesty. I remember when I was a child, I feared storms. I was consumed with watching the weather so I could mentally prepare for when the next storm was to come. As the storms began to rumble the heavens, my heart began to race faster and faster. The wind was fierce and in my mind I was on the next trip to Oz to meet the wizard. 

Eventually everything calmed down. The winds stopped blowing and the rain ceased from flowing out of the clouds. Once again, the birds began to chirp and the sun peeled through the clouds. 

I made it through…

And so here I am writing you after ensurding many storms. Some were actually physical storms, while others were mental/spiritual/human storms. Regardless of what type of storm, I hated to ensure them. But, with each storm, God kept me safe and anchored in him. 

When I wanted to give up, God pulled me closer and told me to focus on him. I held his hand tightly as I began to submit my will and trust him in faith. 

God never promised storms wouldn’t come, but he did promise to never leave or forsake you or me. Now when storms come, although I may bend due to winds of life, but I will never break! For my God is holding me up. There is so much more in store after the storm. Storms are there to build character and your faith. Never be afraid of what is destined to help you become a better you. Blessings to you. 

Health Insurance…a rip off!


Nowadays it is mandatory that everyone has health insurance or there will be a penalty. Although, I get where that thought stems from to a certain degree, in my opinion, I believe health care in the U.S. is a rip off.

The reason why I believe this is because for me I pay almost $300 per check for me and my children. Per year that’s over $7000. Now let’s say we never have a medical emergency, just our regular yearly checkups, then that’s close to $6000 of unused money that I’ve paid to my health isurance for nothing.

Then, what really bothers me is that fact that although I pay that amount each check, if I do need to see a specialist or go to Urgent Care there is always a co-pay. Why do they even exist? The co-pay should automatically be deducted from the hundreds of dollars I pay monthly.

And lets not talk about if I need any  further test done. I will one day get a huge bill in the mail in which I have to set up a payment plan to pay off. Why can’t this money come from the boat load of money that I have already paid out?

In my opinion, yes I love being an American, but I really think America has money hungry ways about it. I really don’t think many people actually care about the welfare of other people, its all about how much can I get from another person.

Yes, I know the U.S. as a whole is not like this, but the main ones who make the decisions are. It’s unfortunate that people care more about money than human life, when in essence you can’t take any of it with you when you die. Greed is such an horrible trait and sin.

I really wish health insurance wasn’t set up the way it is. People are dying daily because they don’t want a out rageous medical bill to pay. Many people are barely making it as is. Some choose to die rather than go to the doctors. So topic is so sad…