Often times especially in the beginning of a new year people make resolutions. Many of those resolutions pertain to such things as losing weight, saving more, spending more time with family, enjoying life more, volunteering more, eating healthier and possibly finding Mr. or Mrs. Right. In the beginning, everyone is on fire regarding what they want to achieve, but as the days roll into weeks, a pass routine usually takes over and that resolution they had high hopes of achieving using gets pushed to the side. Life’s everyday ups and downs begin to show its head and the focus then shifts, often times without any notice. This focused person didn’t mean to lapse back into their own mindset, it just kinda happened.
We’ve all been there. But why have we’ve been there? Why are we still there year after year? It’s because, yes we had great intentions to do this or that, but unless it starts in our mind nothing will ever change. In order to change a habit, a way of thinking or a lifestyle you have to change it first in your mind. You have to see yourself being it or doing it. And ultimately, you have to keep reminding yourself of it. Along the way, others and even yourself may try to convince you otherwise, but you have to stay focused on your goals despite what’s going on around you.
One way to stay focused is to write your dreams and goals down and place them somewhere you can see them as a constant reminder.
“And the Lord answered me, and said, Write the vision, and make it plain upon tables, that he may run that readeth it.” Habakkuk 2:2
If losing weight is your goal, every day may not go exactly how you would want. Yes, you may eat something that wasn’t exactly on your diet menu, but don’t let that discourage you. No one is perfect. Simply try to eat right at the next meal. Even if you don’t see immediate results after a week, keep at it. Change happens from the inside out first. Who cares if your friend lost ten pounds in the first month. You should only compete with yourself. You’re on your own journey. If you keep at it, in time you will see results. But, you must be patient and see yourself as the desired weight you are choosing to be.
If saving more is a goal of yours, but you must make a budget and stick with it. I know for me budgeting is a challenge. There is always something that wasn’t on my budget that comes up in which throws off my budget and causes me to get discouraged. But, regardless of what comes up, never allow that you cause you to give up. Keep at it. In time, you will be able to have a savings allowance for such unplanned occurrences. See yourself getting out of debt. If shopping is your thing, you have to stay out of the malls. Taking your lunch to work instead of buying it each day also saves a lot. And paying for cable is also a drainer for a budget. Many shows can now be viewed on the internet. A penny saved here and there will result in a nice savings account and peace of mind.
If you desire to be in a relationship, that’s quite normal. Humans were designed to be relational. Humans were not designed to be alone. Not saying, you just gotta have a man or woman, but unless you live up under a rock you’re gonna encounter other humans.
“And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone: I will make him an help meet for him.”
Now all throughout creation God was pleased with what he created and pretty much thought he had done was good, but then he looked at man and saw him with no mate and said it wasn’t good. Now if God thinks it’s not good for a human to be alone, then it’s not good. But, let’s use wisdom when approaching this topic. Get yourself together before you ask someone else to become apart of your life. Whatever you desire in a mate become that first. Have a changed mind to change whatever it is that is keeping you from attracting the one for you. If you desire someone who is neat, you be it first. If you desire someone who is good with budgeting money, make an effort to be that.
Simply put, whatever you want to change it all starts in the mind. It all starts with you. One day at a time!