I am the first experience my two boys will have regarding a woman, so I take that role very seriously. Everyday I am careful because not only am I raising them alone, I am teaching them how to become honest and productive people in society, while at the same time needing to correct them when they’ve misbehaved.
Boys will be boys, and my boys although are the greatest blessings to me, have a lot of energy. Way more than me to say the least. They are constantly doing boy things, as I look upon them I am often puzzled because I’m a female and I don’t understand their mindset and ways.
But, even when they get into trouble, my focus is to not “go off,” roll my neck and eyes and degrade them, but rather in love help them understand what they did wrong and why they are being punished. After which, we always hug and walk away still loving each other.
Yes, I’m the head of our household, but one day they will be the head of their own household. My prayer as a mom is they marry women who respect them and are not so hot tempered. That’s just not what they are use to.
Do I get frustrated at times by some of the silly things they do? Yep. Often I have to catch myself because I want to “go off.” But what would it prove? I want them to respect and fear me, but not be afraid of me. I am their mom, but I am also a black female. The first one they’ve ever met.
When they look for a wife, I want them to find someone who is kind, patient and loving. Someone who will have their back in rough times and is their leading cheerleader in life. I wish I could pick out their future spouse, but I know I can’t. Totally unrealistic. I just pray that the example I am a showing them will sway their thoughts and choices as they grow up and will one day search for a wife.